Sunday, October 11, 2009

All Those Wives - Not Such a Good Thing

I've said it before - I don't get it, and I, personally, would never be able to live in a relationship where there was more than just ME. Doesn't sound like it is working out all that well for some of the relationships on this side of the world where the men are allowed more than one wife, either. Call me selfish, but I just am not going to share - - my husband! Apparently, I am not the only one who feels that marriage should only be between TWO people. The different kinds of marriage here, and there are several, are confusing. But the "misyar," in my opinion is one which basically gives a husband a "pass" allowing him to commit adultery - to have an affair - in the eyes of the powers that be, legally. In this way, there is no getting arrested for "khulwa," which is being in the company of an unrelated person of the opposite sex. The misyar marriage of this husband to a second wife did not go over very well with his first of some twenty years. One wife just wasn't enough for him - so he got himself another one. A second wife. Only, first wife didn't know about it. She does now. She wants a divorce. And, she is taking the house. Now the husband has second wife - lucky second wife has the guy all to herself - and they are looking for a place to live. What is unspoken in this ugly truth is that if the guy cheated on first wife - what makes you think he won't cheat on second wife? Once a cheater. Always a cheater. Good for first wife for recognizing she doesn't need the husband.

How long before we see this young woman getting punished with jail time and lashings? It happens, here. Never mind that she was gang raped by four men, one of which she had a relationship with for a couple of years. The relationship was souring and the guy thought he could talk some sense into her, so what does he do? He sets her up. To be gang-raped by three of his friends. Nice guy. Thankfully someone has their wits about them - in this case - the Commission for Investigation and Prosecution [CIP], which is calling for the execution of the four men involved. Remains to be seen whether or not that will actually happen. After all, the young woman involved is just an Asian...


  1. Yep, past my wife, three, on the side girlfriends, those hussies at the bar, and that cutie I met on Craig's List, I'm all about monogamy:)

  2. A little surprising the nationalites of the rapists were mentioned. Too bad their names weren't released also.

    I know I do not share well. One of the many reasons my first husband is NOT my current husband. As to my current, he finds the polygamy just as crazy as I do. His take? Who wants to deal with PMS in quadraphonic?


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